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Love, Art, & Tranquility

Gratitude is baked into many of the reflections Marcus Aurelius wrote in his journal. What I love about this quote, is that it reminds me that art is any work that matters. Acts done with intention and done to enhance the lives of others. Art is music, painting, and fiction for sure. But art is also how you engage as a spouse, parent, employee, or entrepreneur. We practice art when we make a meal, make amends, and clean up a mess.
 
 
Art isn't work you have to do. It's work you get to do. It's the work of empathetic, generous, and thoughtful human beings. People like you and me. People who engage with others not for what they can get, but for what they can give. Work done based on attachment to selfish results leads to suffering. Work done in service to others brings peace of mind.
 
"Love the humble art you have learned and take rest in it." - Marcus Aurelius
 
And fly a little higher this weekend. We need you!
 
Scott
 
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Where Empathy Begins

personal development Apr 23, 2018

Of all the lessons I’ve learned (and continue to learn), the biggest have intersected with my struggle with understanding and employing empathy. A struggle I only began coming to terms with when I added a chapter on it to The Stoic Creative Handbook.

The punchline, or rather the truth as I see it, is that empathy begins with yourself. If you cannot connect with your feelings and see, hear, understand, and forgive yourself, then you are incapable of doing so sincerely and authentically with others. Until then your relationship with others and yourself suffer.

To say I’m a lapsed Catholic would be an insult to lapsed Catholics, but when I hear (and recite), first Corinthians, I get a glimpse of the divine. In you, in her, in him, in me, in nature and in the cosmos. And I begin to think that I just might be getting closer to an empathic understanding and appreciation. And this has “saved” me many times from the unhelpful, harmful, and hateful stories I...

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Don't Play Small

personal development Apr 21, 2018

Marianne Williamson's quote is a compelling call for us to tap into our curiosity and courage and live bigger and in service to others. It lets us know that we are enough as we are while reminding us that we have unfulfilled promise to develop and deliver.

"Your playing small does not serve the world."

Please don't play small. We need you.

Keep flying higher!

Scott

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10 Life Lessons Learned on Stage

I've earned my living from playing music on stages large and small. Sometimes for festival audiences of thousands, sometimes to the sound of one fan clapping in a small club. Along the way, I learned a few lessons that inspire and inform other life endeavors. Here are my top 10 lessons learned from the stage that apply to living "the good life."

  1. Serve the song, don't make the song serve you. Your best work comes when you are present and generous and not attached to a self-serving outcome or agenda.

  2. You don't work music, you play it. The point of work worth doing is not to "win," but to be able to keep "playing the game."

  3. Music is a language and languages are for communicating, connecting, and collaborating. Knowing what your work is for is essential to doing it well. Dial in the motivation, intention, and aspiration of your work and keep it top of mind as you proceed.

  4. Music is a collaboration, not a competition. Self-expression is very different than ...
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The Good Life

Marcus Aurelius is often called the last of the “good emperors” of the Roman Empire. A man who stood above questioning who questioned himself daily. Marcus’ reminders to himself about the importance of virtue and justice inspire me and many others to this day.

“To live the good life. We have the potential for it. If we can learn to be indifferent to what makes no difference.” — Marcus Aurelius

What does it mean to be human? What does it mean to be happy? These are questions we’ve asked ourselves since the dawn of time. Many of us are overwhelmed by such questions. But here, Marcus reminds himself of his agency over his perceptions, thoughts, and actions and therefore the power he has to maintain his sense of well-being in any situation or circumstance.

In this quote, Marcus is reminding himself of a lesson from one of the ancient world’s greatest teachers, Epictetus: “It isn’t events themselves that disturb...

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Is It Time to Say "Goodbye?"

personal development Apr 03, 2018

"Is it time to say 'Goodbye?'"

I ask this question often since the arrival of spring. It's really powerful for "pruning" unnecessary clutter from my life and helping me be more "present" for the work and people in my life that matter.

"We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then,
is not an act, but a habit." - Aristotle

For instance, I said "Goodbye" to several social media accounts and forums. I said "Sayonara" to my daily coffee habit and glass of wine in addition to sugar and wheat. As a result, I said "adiós" to 10 pounds (with 10 more to go).

I said, "Auf wiedersehen" to the few remaining unhealthy relationships I hadn't yet had the courage to end. I said "Au revoir" to a long list of "opportunities" that were only getting in the way of the work I really love to do.

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can
start from now and make a brand new ending." - Marcus Aurelius

Saying "Goodbye" isn't always a sad occasion. Especially when...

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Feelings Vs. Emotions

personal development Mar 31, 2018

Although the words emotions and feelings are often used interchangeably, they are very different beasts. Feelings and emotions should not be confused. Emotions precede feelings, both in evolutionary development and in your daily life. However, while emotional responses are instinctual, normal, and healthy, attachment to them often is not.  

Emotions Happen to You

Emotions come uninvited or unexpected. A flash of anger when someone cuts you off in traffic. The sudden joy you feel when your child takes her first steps. A surge of jealousy when your partner glances at an attractive passerby. Surprise at an unanticipated compliment. A pang of guilt after you've yelled at your child.

These are naturally occurring, brief,  physical responses to stimuli that are hardwired within your limbic system. These impulses bypass your neocortex, where your capacity for reason and language reside. 

It's almost impossible, and highly ill-advised,...

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Everyone's a Creative. Are You Ready to Be an Artist?

Do You Know That You’re Lying?

“Let’s start with a quick poll. Raise your hand if you’re a Creative. Great! If your hand is raised, put it back down. Now, raise your hand if you’re not a Creative. That's interesting. Keep your hand raised. Alright, if your hand is raised, keep it raised if you know you’re lying…!”

This poll is how I open my workshops on becoming a “bulletproof creative” (aka a Thriving Artist). The results are always about the same. One-third raise their hands to the opening query, another third to the next, and the final third to the last (often with nervous laughter).

We Are All Creatives

Here’s the deal: everyone is a Creative. A Creative is simply someone who brings something into the world that didn’t previously exist. Every time you make a meal, make a mess, or make amends, you’ve engaged in an act of creation. Creating is an everyday human activity.

Whether you’re a musician,...

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The Perils of Creative Attachment

 

I had the great privilege of speaking with Seth Godin for a second time on the Creative On Purpose Broadcast recently. He packed our short time together with a ton of knowledge and insight. But one of the most profound moments was what Seth said about the perils of attachment for creatives (people like us).

I’ve been thinking about this ever since our conversation ended and sharing a few “aha moments” I didn’t see or articulate when Seth suggested I lead off our discussion.

  • We control our perception of people, situations, and circumstances and what we decide to do next. We do not control the outcomes of those actions.

  • We can, however, influence results through the thoughtful use of strategy and tactics. Generosity, storytelling, tension, positioning, remarkability, etc. must be employed ethically and with empathy, if we are to be creative marketers, and not hackers, spammers, tricksters, and selfish advertisers.

  • The motivation, intention, and...
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How Do We Serve Those Who Serve Those Who Serve?

personal development Feb 17, 2018

Acknowledging and Supporting Military Spouses

You know the type. Earnest civilian crosses the aisle or the parking lot, hand extended to someone in military uniform or wearing a retiree’s ball cap.

“Thank you for your service.”

Yeah, that’s me.

The gratitude is heartfelt and the gesture sincere. But I’ve been insensitive.

In working with military service personnel and those who love and support them, I’ve learned that the TYFYS gesture often makes the recipient uneasy and it comes across as a bit hollow.

Recognition is great. Action would be far more meaningful.

And then there’s my bigger offense. I never turn to the left or right of the person whose hand I’m clasping to say to the person by their side, “And thank you for your service, too.”

It’s never even occurred to me.

That’s changed since I led a workshop in goal setting for a group of military spouses.

To prepare for the workshop, I interviewed military...

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